There are many challenges we encounter in life, but we must get though them. Lately it seems I have encountered challenge after challenge. I wish could could say that everything is over, but it seems it is far from it.
I have had a girlfriend now for almost eight months. Wow. These past eight months have truly been a blur. They have also been the best months of my life. Thank you baby. However recently things have been going wrong, and it is not because we don’t love each other. It has to do with her parents, more specifically her tyrannical mother. If there is one thing that gets deep under my skin it is bad parents. And I’m not talking bad parents that keep their kids sheltered their whole life, I am talking about the kind that their children fear and can not wait to get away from. For almost eight months now, I have been that relief, on the weekends at least. Attending school all week long sometimes means long phone conversations when things get bad, but I’m okay with that. I am her coping device, her other half. Most recently, there has been a succession of incidents that have lead to us not being able to see each other.
I will start with this past Friday, when everything took a sharp turn in a direction that was not good. While we were at my house after she got out of school, her mother called, and was not thrilled that they did not know ahead of time she was coming over my place. Understandable, whose parents don’t want to have an idea of where they are. Because of this she was grounded and not allowed to see me for the weekend, but during this phone call, her mother threatened to beat the shit out of her, called her stupid, and so on. This was not the first time I had heard her talk to my girlfriend like that, but this time it was different, because it was more harsh, and did not come at a good time. There were bad events earlier in the week that I won’t get into. So I did as her mother wished, and took her home. One fact I did not mention, she is 17, I am 19.
So that went by, and I saw her at work later that night. She was scared, I could tell. People get a look in their eye sometimes, and it just screams fear. So my brain sprung into action. Working with the police, I have some resources that I can tap. So I got on the phone and started getting some advice. What was determined is a few things, that 17 is a very grey area. However it was recommended that if she did not feel comfortable once she got home, for any reason, call the police. She lives a town over from me, and that is exactly what happened later that night. What was supposed to happen was the the police would help her go somewhere else for the night where she would feel safe. However, what ended up happening was far from that. It was disastrous. The police botched the entire situation. It ended up escalating the entire problem and somehow I because the cause of it all. Not her mother who had her in fear and refused to accept any fault. She looked for a way out and found me.
Naturally, I do not like this. I am a bit egotistical, and when someone challenges me like that, I get agitated and very defensive. Now, I of course want to retaliate, but at this time it would appear that my best course of action would be to try to get back in their good graces. This will be difficult, but I have to try. However that would have played out, I am not sure because at this point, there has been another completely random turn of events to escalate the situation.
Nothing ever comes easy in life. As I was hoping this situation would be able to blow over this week, a lot to expect. And things were, seemingly, starting to settle out, and we were going to talk to her dad about her going to live with her grandparents instead. Her mother and father were never married. But as of yesterday, I am totally out in the dark. Her mother has determined that I was only in a relationship with her daughter for sex. Not only does this bother me, but it hurts. I would have assumed that after eight months her mother would have got to know me a little better than that. I would have assumed that she was not that blind, but apparently she was. Now she also claims that her father and grandparents agree with that. There is only one way should could have even gotten that idea and that could have been reading a few text messages on my girlfriend phone when she took it away. But now, this situation just got harder. However, today, she is going home with her grandparents and eventually going to end up at her fathers. So we will find out the truth, and if that is the truth, it will be easier to repair with them than it will be with her mother.
Just when you think your life is going all good, it throws you a curve ball that you never saw coming. Now me and her are ducked down behind a wall taking heavy enemy fire. We need to find a way to flank and out maneuver a larger enemy force, because if we are to survive, that must be done. One way is for her to move out, because is MA there is no way for your parents to keep you at home. They are responsible for you, however the courts will not get involved once you are 17.5 due to the fact that by the time anything happens, you will be closer to 18. However in order for that to happen she needs a place to go. That was where her grandparents came in, and now, I do not know what to do. I am preparing for the worst, something I am not good at. Because when I get backed into corners I snap, and that will only damage this delicate situation.
Hopefully today will be good news, hopefully she can convince her dad and grandparents otherwise, because if not, I do not know what we will do. But we must hold for now, and find a way through.
